My, my, my. I’m here to discuss one of my fav topics. And one of my guilty pleasures. My comfort zone.
In other words, a comfort zone is a beautiful place. But nothing ever grows there. In all honesty, it’s so simple to let our decisions be masked by what we choose to do in our comfort zones. I dunno about you, but in the past, I have let my comfort zone dictate what I do. It’s so simple to do! I mean, it’s comfortable there, right? And why would I ever want to make myself uncomfortable?
Well. Because nothing good ever comes from comfort zones.
I’m sure you’re wondering if this is really even true. I know I was. Because you know what I think is good? Binge-watching every season of Revenge on Netflix. Yup… I’m guilty. And that’s def in my comfort zone. Just saying.
What I think needs to be altered here is the term ‘good.’ Sure, binge-watching Revenge is incredibly satisfying and I enjoy every second of it, but dare I say it’s not… magical? So, let’s reiterate, shall we?
Nothing magical ever comes from comfort zones.
There it is. That sounds about right.
When I say that getting out of your comfort zone is magical… I mean it. It’s so so scary, don’t get me wrong. But there’s something about the adrenaline rush you feel right after you do the thing you’re nervous to do.
It makes you want to do more of the thing that scares you. And if that isn’t magic, then I don’t know what is.
Kind of reminds me of the runner’s high. You know, before you actually get involved with running, you think you never want to run or you just hate it. But once you start, you crave the feeling you get from running? It’s the same thing with doing something that scares you. It truly makes you feel alive. It’s magical.
If you’ve never experienced this kind of thing, I highly encourage you to either pick up running as a hobby or pick something that totally gets you out of your comfort zone. And running may get you out of your comfort zone, so go for it, girlfriend!
Now I’m not telling you to go jump off a bridge or anything. Please don’t do that.
What I’m talking about is simply something like going live on Facebook or Instagram for your business. Gosh, that scared me SO MUCH. In fact, I got nervous for months every single time right before I went live. But it’s truly been worth it for me. I’ve gained self-confidence I never knew I had, I’ve developed friendships with people that truly matter to me, and I realized that I could overcome things that, in the beginning, truly scared me. Now see what I mean? … it’s magic.
Now that I’ve got you on the same page with me in understanding that magical things happen outside our comfort zones, I wanted to share with you some quick tips to perhaps make it a little easier for you to step outside of yours.
Write down your life goals.
No, really. Write. Them. Down. There’s something magical that happens once you write them down. At least for me. It’s like a lightbulb went off. Idk about you, but I tend to keep my goals bottled up because it’s almost like I’m afraid to commit so I don’t fail. When I write them down, they become real.
Now how does this help you get out of your comfort zone? Visualization, my friend.
For one thing, if you don’t have anything to pursue, what’s the point of getting out of your comfort zone anyway? You have to figure out what is worth it to you.
Take baby steps.
Depending on your personality, you may be able to just suck it up and do the dang thing without a second thought. But for some of us, myself included, you may have to start smaller in order to be successful in the long run.
Let’s go back to the runner example.
If running absolutely scares you to death like it did for me at one point, you may need to start with just aiming to be on the elliptical for 30 min 3x a week. That seems so small, but for someone who is afraid, baby steps are still steps. So 30 min 3x a week turns into 5x a week. Then 3 of those 5 days turns into 30 min walking on the treadmill. Then all 5 walking on the treadmill. Then on one of those days, you all of a sudden have the courage to download the 5k runner app and work through day 1. Then day 2… then day 3. You catch my drift, yes?
True life story right there. That actually happened to me. And yes, I truly just started with 30 min on the elliptical because the treadmill scared me.
You can apply this to all aspects of your life. Take baby steps if you need to. Adjust it according to what you will actually do to make it not so scary.
Now there are a lot of things that will get you outside of your comfort zone that do not necessarily require consistency. One time things, really. But most likely, the things that scare you the most (the things that you ultimately want to do because they will get you achieve your end goal) are typically things you’ll need to do more than once. These are things you’ll need to do multiple times a week, if not every day. When you think about your end goals, you should be able to determine what those things are.
And just from experience… normally the things that scare you the most are the exact things you should be doing.
It’s crazy how intelligent our subconscious really is, yes? LOL.
But back to consistency. Doing something over and over makes it a little less overwhelming for you. Not necessarily easier. But you begin to build faith in yourself and grow confidence in yourself because you are facing a fear. This being said, overcoming obstacles and pushing through comfort zones starts to become more familiar. It doesn’t make it any less difficult. But once you break the barrier once, you begin to believe that you can do it again… and again.
Not only does consistency help you believe in yourself, but it helps others take you more seriously. & if you’re wanting to build a business, this is extremely important.
Go back and visualize your goals. Talk kindly to yourself. I know most of us struggle with self-doubt. It’s hard not to. Self-doubt and fear and are the two main guys that make up my comfort zone. But the best way to combat this is to talk to yourself kindly. Change your mindset, if you will.
Now I know you’re thinking, “Omg, another person telling me to change my mindset. Just stop already.”
Hear me out. Instead of saying how wrong it is for someone to say “change your mindset,” take this moment and say out loud, “I am strong. I am confident. I am fearless. I am _____ (whatever you think you’re not).”
If you are just starting out with running, you can say, “I am a runner and I love it.” Even when you don’t.
When you start saying these things consistently (I like to say them & write them out in the morning), something changes in your subconscious. Really and truly. It’s magical.
Keep going even when you fail.
This is a big one. And think of it like this: consistency is more important than perfection.
Imperfection is inevitable. So is failure. We’ve all failed at something. Failed to wake up at the time we said we were going to, failed to go to gym after work, failed to respond to a text promptly, failed to take the garbage out… I could go on.
Please take note of how loosely I used the term “fail.” So often I think we see “failure” as an incredible loss. Now I’m definitely not undermining the fact that some failures are more heart-wrenching than others, but the fact of the matter is that you are going to fail at something.
I believe that a skill we all need to develop is how to move forward quickly when we do fail.
“Now what happens if I fail to stay consistent? That means I didn’t keep going.”
I know that question is popping into someone’s head right now.
My response is this:
Go back & write down your life goals. Take baby steps. Stay consistent. Stay positive. And keep going even when you fail.
That’s right. Back to the beginning. This is not a bad thing. A lot of the time the reason why we give up or fail, in the first place, is that we lose sight of our goals because we are so caught up in the process.
Now if you want to limit the number of times you go through this cycle, please make sure you are focusing on your goals every day. For me, that tends to be the first thing that I stop being consistent with. I feel like I have it all under control, my goals are all in my head, everything is going great… but then chaos ensues. I stop being consistent and then all of a sudden, it’s like I don’t even know why I’m doing what I’m doing anymore, nothing makes sense, and a whole lot of confusion happens. Then finally I suck it up and take some time to re-evaluate my goals. And I start the process over.
For example, the OTF weightloss challenge I blogged about. Anyone notice that I never blogged about the 6th week? Yeah… it was one of those times.
Has anyone else ever been through that kind of confusion before? If you have, I highly encourage you to take some time to re-evaluate. And if you’re religious, take some time to pray & be open to receiving guidance. I’ve realized that slumps in life are inevitable as well as failure. & if you ever want to achieve the big dreams that you have always imagined, you’re going to have to get out of your comfort zone at some point in your life. You just have to figure out what’s worth it to you & learn to never let go of it.
If you’re interested in watching the livestream version of this video, you can do so here. Fair warning: I was incredibly nervous to do a livestream NOT related to beauty products. SO out of my comfort zone. Fitting, right?! LOL. Feel free to follow & let me know you came from my blog so we can follow each other! <3
But ANYWAYS, Imma hop off of here. Gotta go write out my goals LOL. But because I really want to get to y’all on a deeper level, I’d love to know… what is 1 goal of yours? It doesn’t matter how big or how small — I’d love to see if there’s any way I can help you achieve it.