Y’all know what the difference between an introvert & an extrovert is, yes?
Just in case you need a run down, it’s a little something like this:
Introverts spend energy when they’re social. Extroverts receive energy when they’re social.
Pretty simple way to put it. A lot of people see it as if someone is shy, then they’re most likely an introvert. If they’re the life of the party, they might be an extrovert. This isn’t always true by any means. Basically, if you’re an introvert, you re-charge and gain energy when you’re having some time to yourself.
So I know you’re wondering LOL. What am I?
I am, without a shadow of a doubt, an introvert. And I always have been. There are times when I am outgoing, butttttt that is me getting outside of my comfort zone.
Working my business, I have def been faced with different struggles than perhaps an extrovert would face. For example, it kind of scares me to death to meet new people. It used to scare me to go live on social media. It still scares me to talk in front of people. With my personality, I’ve noticed I thrive off of one-on-one relationships. When it comes to being around 4 or more people at once, I have a tendency to get a little anxious. Whereas, when I’m with a smaller amount of people, I usually have the ability to exert some of my energy into building those relationships.
That being said, I really want to elaborate on the top 7 things that have truly helped me have a successful business with being an introvert.
Utilize social media.
I know this is basically an obvious, but it had to be said. As an introvert, being social scares me. Not saying you shouldn’t get out of your comfort zone and do things that scare you…. but sometimes it takes baby steps, people.
So, get social. Build relationships. Network. Comment on others’ content and actually build a relationship. Build rapport.
Because if you’re anything like me, you probably feel like you just don’t know anyone. You may not feel like you have a strong network of people to work with, amiright?
Wrong-o. You probably do. You just don’t talk to them.
Thank God for social media. Makes getting to know people a little less frightening on us introverts. I speak from experience LOL.
Create valuable content that resonates with others.
So here’s the thing. It doesn’t necessarily scare me to reach out to people on social media and start a conversation anymore… but it used to. And even though social media conversations have become a little simpler for me over time, and me consistently building authentic relationships & rapport with people, it can still be a little more difficult for me in “real life.”
But before I even started feeling comfortable actually starting up conversations with people on social media, I was creating some form of content that would attract people to me. In person and online. There are many times where I’ve ran into people I haven’t seen or heard from in years who have started conversations with me about what I have been doing online. This still throws me for a loop every time, because a lot of the time, I don’t even know they’re watching. But basically, they start the conversation with me and then I don’t have to be the one to start the conversation with them. It’s a win-win.
Now I’m not saying I was perfect by any means when it comes to my attraction marketing skills, because I didn’t know what I was doing. But I always would try and focus on ways to help others. Whether that was creating a tutorial on my favorite rose gold eyeshadow look (because we know rose gold is everyone’s fav right now), OR writing a blog post on giving up fear & taking some risks.
When you create valuable content that people can resonate with, you’re essentially attracting people to you. And if you don’t think you have anything valuable that you can share with the world, then… you’re wrong.
Every single one of us was put on this Earth for a reason and every single one of us has something special to share. Whether that be a talent or an experience to share. Don’t think that just because you don’t have the same skillset as someone else, doesn’t mean you have something valuable to share. In fact, your story, or whatever it is that you want to share, is going to resonate with so many more different people than mine would.
Take baby steps.
I’ve mentioned this before in my last blog post — how to get out of your comfort zone. I’m not going to get too far ahead of myself with this, but if you’d like to learn more about what I think about this, you can check it out here.
But basically, as an introvert, you don’t want to be doing too many social things at once. Or if you’re so uncomfortable with the thought of going live, start with a short, pre-recorded video doing something you feel comfortable doing.
There was a time when I felt super uncomfortable posting Snapchat videos to my story. Even when they weren’t of me. I’ve come a long way.
Which brings me to my next point…
Fake it ’til you make it.
This is like my life motto. I am a strong believer in self-talk. I’m also a strong believer that action creates change. For example, when it comes to live videos, I consistently “faked” confidence before I actually started feeling comfortable and confident in front of the camera. I told always said out loud in front of my mirror that I was confident before I clicked the “go live” button.
The action of being confident and telling yourself that you are, even when you’re not, will eventually create a change in your subconscious, and you will wake up one day and realize that you have gained so much self-confidence and you don’t even know where it came from.
It came from faking it, girlfriend.
So regardless of whether you want to go live, or whatever it is that you feel like you need to work on as an introvert…
Leverage this as a way to get in your zone and turn on that confidence for just a little bit and fake it ’til you make it.
But let’s be honest. All that faking it can be super exhausting.
Have set times to re-charge.
Yup. This is definitely a tip that speaks to me.
Now that we know, as introverts, we need to be faking it ’til we make it for a certain amount of time and spending energy on this “fake” confidence, we need to make sure we have the energy to do that. So that leads us to making sure that we have a set time to re-charge.
So, for me, as an introvert, it takes a lot of energy for me go live. This is a super example, but whenever I hop off of a live video, I have a really hard time immediately going back and responding to comments like I want to. That’s because I’ve already put so much energy into the action of going live, going back and talking to people right after I get off of live video is like social anxiety overload. So that being said, I now have certain times to re-charge and regain the energy I am putting out.
This means no phone, no checking messages, or even scrolling through Facebook. This has been a huge thing for me grasp. And it’s such a game-changer.
Because now I have a lot more energy during the productive hours of my day in order to get the things I need to get done for my businesses.
Have set social times.
Just like having set times to re-charge, you most definitely want to plan times that you are social and you are going to be spending your energy.
This goes for whether you are on social media or any in-person event.
An in-person event can speak for itself, but I think most of the time, we don’t realize how often we are truly on social media.
When I first started having businesses online, I spent so much time on my phone. Now I’m not saying talking to people online didn’t help me, because it did. But I spent way too much time throughout the day scrolling through Facebook thinking I was going to miss something important. Once I started blocking out times in my day to actually engage on other peoples’ content and starting conversations and building relationships with people is when I started feeling a lot more productive and a lot less mentally exhausted.
Find your passion.
This should go without saying, but if you’re not passionate about the business you’re in or what you’re doing, I highly recommend re-evaluating. Start with writing out your life goals. And then start writing out the things that you need to be doing to get there.
You’ll either realize that you have gotten off track with your life goals and actually need to be doing something completely than what you have been doing.
You’ll realize that you were just lost. You forgot your goals somewhere along the path and writing your goals down re-ignited that passion.
Thanks so much for sticking with me through all that. Now I’d like to know something.
Which one of these biz tips resonated with you the most? Will you implementing any of them into your business or your lifestyle? Let me know how!